You could think that in a calm season like this Covid-19 time, where people stay at home and have less contact with each other, they concentrate more on themselves instead of the life of others. That the way how people treat one another is more grateful than before because they recognise in their self-isolation how precious spending time with others is. But sadly the opposite seems to be the case.
Gossiping Is The New Number One Trend
Not only does it seem like gossiping is turning into the favourite hobby of people, but suddenly also everyone seems to have an opinion about how you should better live your life, spend your quarantine time and which life decisions for yourself would be the correct ones. It’s kind of odd how much unasked advice we got in the last weeks from people that we have not heard from for months or even years. Some people are so unhappy in their self-isolation that they concentrate on all the things that other people might have or do wrong.
When Negative Thoughts Spread Even Faster Than The Virus Itself
In my opinion, we should better concentrate on positivity instead of spreading more negativity, especially at the moment when everyone is going through a tough time. Sure gossiping is the easiest way and you might feel better about yourself for a short moment, but do you really want to be someone who cheers yourself up by searching for the faults of others? So the next time when someone is trying to include you in a gossip talk, don´t go for the easy way, stay out of it. Concentrating on the flaws of others doesn´t make your own disappear. You might think the person you are talking about might never find out that you gossiped about her, but even if that might be true, it´s still such a negative acting and I´m sure every one of you knows the feeling about finding out that someone else spoke badly about you. Do you really want to do that to others? So please stop talking behind the back of others. Stay away from it and spread positivity instead.
You ask yourself what to do when you are the centre of the gossip itself and don´t know how to care less about what others may think about you. Ignore them and do better instead!
Don´t focus on their crappy words and be kind instead. You will never be able to control what others think or talk about you anyway, but you can choose to not give them the power over your mindset or let you take it down. Just because someone has an opinion about you doesn’t mean that it´s right anyway, it´s just their point of view. Better focus on yourself and how you can improve your own character strength.
So the next time when someone finds your life more interesting than their own ones and gossips about you then concentrate on your own growth. Instead of asking if other people will like your decisions make sure that they are the right ones for you. Do you like yourself? ´Cause at the end that is all that really matters.
When They Go Low, We Go High
I also find it helpful to respond to gossip with an extra portion of kindness. It often helps to turn around a negative talk into a more positive one. Look for the good in your communication partner and you will mostly find something. In case this is not the case and you feel like the other person is a toxic contact for you then try to limit your time together. Learn to stay away from negative talks and focus more on the good sides of life. The more you do so, the less you will care about the thoughts of negative people.
I hope these little thoughts on the gossip topic itself cleared your mind a bit and maybe it will help some of you to be kinder today.
How do your experiences with gossip look like? Have you ever been the centre of gossip?