Hey inner critic this one is for you.. #MindshiftingMoment

Today I would like to talk to you about a mind-shifting moment that I had the other day when I was reading the following quote.

Everything We Do Stems From Either Love Or Fear

You might not be aware of it, but all your thoughts, actions and feelings stem from either LOVE or FEAR. From the outside, your actions might look the exact same, but the way how you feel about something changes completely if an action is a pleasure for you or creates pain.

Let’s make this clearer with an easy example: At the moment home workouts are completely in trend and you are one of the people doing them. So from the outside, the people around you like your family or partner can see, that you are doing exercise, but only you know how you feel inside. You might think that it doesn’t make a difference what your feelings are while you exercise, as you do it anyway, but your motives and intentions matter more than you think.

A Place Of Love

If you look at this action from a place of love, your intentions of doing exercise are positive ones. You might choose to do it because you want to keep your body healthy and make it even stronger. When this is the case, you enjoy the exercise, because you know that it’s something that you do for yourself and your own benefit.

A Place Of Fear

But here’s the thing, when you look at the same action of doing exercise and you only do it out of fear, it might harm you more than it brings you benefits. If you are only doing it, because you are afraid to gain weight or you feel like you have to do it, to be socially acceptable just because everyone else is doing home workouts at the moment, every workout will feel like a punishment to your own body.

FEAR is the root of all your issues, only LOVE brings you #HAPPINESS #mindshifter Klick um zu Tweeten

I think we have all heard often enough in the last few years, that we should be more kind to ourselves. So the next time, when you can feel that you actually don’t enjoy something you are doing, ask yourself if you are doing the actions out of a place of fear. If that’s the case, don’t feed your inner critic, who only tries to bully you and try to look at the same thing out of a perspective of love.

You might think now: „Okay, but I don’t like to for example clean my apartment and I have to do it anyway, cause no one else is doing it for me.“ Yes, that might be true. But if you change the angle of how you look at it, you can find a more positive perspective. When you look at the action of cleaning out of a place of love, you can see it like this: You do it for your own pleasure and benefits because you deserve to live in a clean and beautiful place. Having the ability and equipment to clean is a good thing. It doesn’t have to be an unwelcome task. You do it for yourself to make your own surrounding a positive area.

Change How You Feel About It

If you look at your daily habits and tasks from a perspective of love for yourself, you will feel way better doing them. Do things for yourself and not because you think other people expect them from you. Learn how to understand your inner critic and acknowledge the fear, but choose empathy for yourself instead. You can switch your feelings around by understanding, where they come from. And always keep in mind:

Fear Is The Root Of All Your Issues, Only Love Brings You Happiness

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  1. Liebe Tiziana, ich liebe deine Beiträge, denn greifst immer so wunderbare Themen auf und bringst es dabei so schön den Punkt. Es liebt an uns und an unserer Einstellung, wie wir an eine Sache herangehen – es kann mit Angst oder Liebe sein und auch wenn es sich um eine vielleicht nicht so interessante oder auch unangenehme Tätigkeit handelt, so können wir mit unseren Überlegungen sicherlich etwas Positives daran finden. Wir fühlen uns vielleicht danach wohler, wenn wir Bewegung machen und gesünder, wenn wir die entsprechende Nahrung zu uns nehmen, wir haben weniger Stress, wir haben ein schöneres Umfeld oder auch vielleicht etwas für die Zukunft, dass wir unseren Traumjob erhalten, wenn wir eine entsprechende Ausbildung machen. Danke für diese wunderbare Gedankenanregung.
    Hab einen ganz wunderbaren Abend und alles Liebe

  2. Ah well said! It is good for most people in the first world to be positive and not live with fear as most of it is in their heads literally. But more challenging for people who don’t have easy first world lives or live in places that are challenge freedoms. But for those first world people who have good health, plenty of mine and have not experienced true hardship they really do need to let go of the fear as there is not reason for it.

    Allie of

  3. This is such an important post, and a positive outlook to have during this time. It’s definitely things to reflect on.

    Also, I don’t know if it’s just because I’m on my mac, but I find it really hard to comment on your blog because the Instagram bar kind of goes across the name and email, so I have to use my tab to go into the boxes. I just thought I’d let you know in case you hadnt noticed!

    I hope you’re well 🙂

    1. Hi Amy oh thanks to let me know about the instagram-problem. I’m trying to fix it, but haven’t figured out yet what causes the problem.
      Have a great day!!

  4. Yes, it’s important to understand the reason why we do things as it can change how we do something and what we do…to play devil’s advocate, I do believe there are more reasons for why people do things. There’s love, fear…there can also be indifference, wishing you a lovely weekend hon, Xo

  5. Ooooh I feel this about the inner critic. It is hard when you have the voice in your head is making things hard. I like the point about changing your perspective. We definitely want the best for ourselves. Thanks for sharing!

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

  6. Da hast du absolut Recht! Gerade das Beispiel mit den Homeworkouts passt total gut. Man kann sie machen, weil man seinem Körper und Geist etwas Gutes tun und sich wohlfühlen möchte – oder weil man Angst hat, sonst gejudged zu werden oder zuzunehmen. Wenn nan es aus ersteren Gründen tut ist das weitaus besser für Körper, Geist und Seele.

    Sowieso sollte unsere Motivation viel öfter Liebe sein – zu uns selbst, zu anderen.

    Ganz liebe Grüße,
    Krissi von the marquise diamond

  7. What a beautiful article. Working from fear, even though effective, makes you miss out of the joys of the process as you can’t even enjoy it; you just want to see the final result.
    Patience is always needed and is always best working from a place of love. Being patient with myself has made me appreciate me more.


  8. I love how you look at this because it’s such a positive spin. I’ve never really thought a lot about this subject but it really is true how everything is motivated by either love or fear, and I think it’s an important and interesting subject to learn about. Thanks for sharing.

  9. I so agree. I used to exercise because I felt like I had to be active for a certain number of minutes per day and it was so unhealthy and made it feel like a chore. Reframing things helps with attitude towards them. xo

  10. This post is so good, Tiziana! Oh my goodness, you hit the nail on the head when you mentioned that doing things out of fear can have consequences. I can look back at things I’ve done because I thought I „should,“ and not because I really wanted to. It always lead to resentment and anxiety.

    Make Life Marvelous

  11. Hi Tiziana,
    ein toller Beitrag – den inneren Kritikern kenne ich zu gut! Und die Perspektive macht soo viel aus, um seine Gedanken und damit auch seine Gefühle zu verändern…es entsteht alles im Kopf. Ich versuche auch immer, mich daran zu erinnern, dass niemand Gefühle in mir auslösen kann, die ich nicht zu lassen will. Ich bestimme selbst – ist nicht immer einfach 🙂
    Ganz herzliche Grüße!

  12. Liebe Tiziana, was für ein großartiger Beitrag, der mich wiedermal richtig zum Nachdenken anregt. Der Satz ist so simpel, aber könnte nicht wahrer sein. Tatsächlich habe ich vor ein paar Jahren die Erkenntnis gemacht, dass ich sehr viele Dinge nur getan habe, weil ich sie auf Social Media gesehen habe bzw. dachte, man MUSS das einfach machen. Irgendwann habe ich angefangen, jeden einzelnen Schritt zu hinterfragen, mache ich das jetzt wirklich, weil ich es möchte, weil ich es liebe oder weil ich denke, ich sollte es tun. Das hat vieles in meinem Alltag und Leben verändert. Vielen, vielen Dank für diesen so wichtigen Beitrag. Ich wünsche dir einen ganz wundervollen Start in diese neue Woche, hoffentlich mit ganz viel Sonnenschein bei dir, alles, alles Liebe, x S.Mirli!

    1. Hallo liebe Mirli,
      das hast du so schön geschrieben. Du hast absolut Recht, gerade Social Media bringt uns immer wieder dazu zu hinterfragen, was eigentlich unsere eigenen Wünsche und Träume sind und welche wir nur denken zu brauchen, weil wir andere mit ihnen sehen.

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