Hello, my gorgeous readers! Lately, I’ve been getting so many messages and comments from you guys – also on Instagram – that you’ve been loving my book recommendations, so I thought it was time for some new ones. Today I would like to share some of my favourite books with you, that have seriously changed my life. I hope they will be as inspiring for you as they have been for me and that they will shape your mind and motivate you. I’ll share some personal development books and novels that improved my lifestyle a lot.
Are you ready for the most life-changing books?
You Are A Badass
My number one recommendation and the ultimate motivational book is called „You are a badass. How to stop doubting your greatness and start living an awesome life“ by Jen Sincero. I got this book as a Christmas gift two years ago and already recommended it to a bunch of people. It’s parted into little chapters for different topics and is ideal for reading a chapter before bedtime or in the morning to get your motivational doses. The writing style of Sincero is hilarious and she mixes her own stories with the success stories of other famous people. This book is really inspiring and I’m sure I will reread it a couple of times in my life ‚cause it gives you the feeling of being a total badass and that you can achieve, whatever you want if you are willing to really go for it. Afterwards, I read all the other books by the author, but this one is by far the best.
I recommended it on my Instagram a couple of weeks ago and got so much positive feedback from friends and followers, who bought it afterwards and love it just like me. It’s my „I would take it on a lonely island book“ (and I’m sure with that book I would even find a way to escape the island, cause it really motivates you to get over your own limits).
Read this book over and over and over, until it becomes your thoughts. It’s time well spent.
Main topics: mindset, personal growth and inspiring success stories
Writing style: casual and funny
Why it changed my life: I never had a personal coach, but this book is how I imagine it to be. Someone, who motivates you, but at the same time, tells you to work harder and don’t be so lazy.
Example: When you are coming up with excuses the book says things like „Really? You’re really going to let that stop you?“
„Every single person is born with unique and valuable gifts to share with the world. Once we figure out what ours are, and decide to live our lives putting them to use, that’s when, and only when, the real party begins. Living a life on purpose is available to everyone. So if you’re struggling or settling or completely confused about what you’re supposed to do with your life, know that the answer is already here. It exists and so does the life you can’t wait to create. You just need to get some clarity first. “
„In order to kick ass you must first lift up your foot.“
Sometimes your mind is scarier than the reality: „Is anything scary happening to you right now at this very moment? Right now, where you’re sitting, is anything bad actually happening or is it just the thoughts in your head that are freaking you out? You deplete the much-needed energy you need to kick ass by freaking out before something even happens. Instead, stay in the moment.“
Outliers: The Story of Success
While the first book was about motivation, the second book is a collection of success stories and hard work. I read it like at least 10 years ago and it’s still stuck in my head as one of the biggest key changers.
Why it changed my life: It completely changed the way how I am looking at success. Success doesn’t seem like this magical thing anymore, that is super far away – no, the success is basically the hours you work on something. So instead of thinking that successful people are just more talented or lucky, I remind myself of the famous 10.000-hour-rule.
The 10.000-hour rule says, that anyone can be an expert of various fields by investing thousands of hours to become successful in them.
Success = Talent + Timing + Practice
Main topics: success and practice, proven success stories and studies
Writing Style: more theoretical with studies and statistics
„Practice isn’t the thing you do once you’re good. It’s the thing you do, that makes you good.“
Let Me Tell You A Story
This might be the book I read the most in my life so far, at least 7 times already. A friend recommended it to me when I was a teenager and I had a huge Jorge Bucay phase where I read lots of his books. This one is my favourite.
Life can be complicated sometimes and the protagonist Demian is visiting a psychologist to talk about his (relationship) problems. The reader follows his search and journey to happiness and a more fulfilled life. The unconventional psychoanalyst Jorge tells Demian short stories, which include amazing life advice. The stories are very different and the more often you read them, the deeper you understand them.
Why it changed my life: No matter, in which life phase I am, I always find an amazing new look on my life when I read short wise stories. It’s up to you how you analyse them and which tips you want to include in your life.
Main topics: mindset, daily struggles, personal growth, the search for happiness
Writing Style: philosophical, short stories, easygoing
„Those who dance will always be considered insane by those who can’t hear the music.“
So Stärken Sie ihr Selbstwertgefühl (german edition only)
I got this book as a free review copy for my instagram page / not paid
The next book only exists in german so far, but it changed my thinking so much that I didn`t want to delete it from the list. It´s from a german psychologist, who wrote a couple of really successful self-help books in the last few years and I’m sure that it will get translated soon.
The book is about self-esteem and how often we sabotage ourselves. It analyses different behaviours and stereotypes and gives helpful tips on how to develop better self-esteem. I found the tips really helpful and the book helps not only to understand yourself better but also other perspectives.
Why it changed my life: While some books have like one or two practical tips, this one had a bunch of exercises and things you can practice to build up your self-esteem and handle tricky situations better.
Main topics: emotional intelligence, self-esteem, human relationships
Writing Style: short chapters, easy-going with lots of examples from her psychiatrist therapy talks with her patients
„Leicht kränkbar ist ein Mensch eigentlich nur in jenen Bereichen, in denen er an sich selbst zweifelt. Kritik schmerzt eigentlich nur, wenn sie in die offene Wunde der Selbstzweifel trifft.“
„Selbstunsichere Menschen sind defizitorientiert. Sie empfinden eine große Diskrepanz zwischen dem, was sie sind und dem, was sie gern wären. Psychologen bezeichnen dies als die Diskrepanz zwischen dem Real- und dem Idealselbst.“
He is just not that into you
Let`s end with a funny book. „He´s just not that into you“ was the very first self-help book I read as a Teenager over 15 years ago and it got so successful that there is even a movie about it now. The book includes a bunch of true stories from females all around the world, who listened to the white lies and lame excuses from guys, who let`s be honest just didn’t want to have a serious relationship.
Why it changed my life: It saved me a lot of unnecessary drama. The main message of the book is, that when someone comes up with excuses all the time you have to face the truth: he is just not that into you. And this is not just about dating. You might be in a relationship with someone already but every time you come up with a bit more commitment like meeting the parents, moving together, getting married or starting a family the other one panics. Well instead of trying to talk your partner into something or hoping that it would change over the years, you should better see the truth. It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want to have commitment, he just doesn’t want to have it with you.
This might sound harsh, but the book has so many true stories that at the end you will realize that if you have to chase it, it is not a true love / well functioning relationship.
Main topics: emotional intelligence, knowing your own worth / self-esteem, the trouble of communication
Writing Style: funny, straightforward and pretty practical
„Thinking of yourself as the exception is what got you into this mess in the first place.“
„I hate to tell you this, but here’s why he feels rushed: He’s still not sure you’re the one.“
Which are the most life changing books you ever read?
Was für eine wunderschöne Buchvorstellung. Ich muss ja gestehen, ich habe noch NIE etwas anderes als einen Roman gelesen, jetzt mal von Schulbüchern oder historischen Sachbüchern abgesehen, aber von solchen „Lebensratgebern“ habe ich bisher immer einen großen Bogen gemacht, aber du stellst sie so einladend vor, dass ich vielleicht doch einmal einen Versuch wagen sollte und wer weiß, vielleicht verändert das zumindest meine Ansicht auf das Thema „Ratgeber“. Liebe Tiziana, die Fotos sind soooo hübsch. Ich wünsche dir eine ganz fantastische neue Woche und eine unvergessliche Zeit mit deinem Heimkehrer, alles, alles Liebe, x S.Mirli
Oh Mirli wicklich? Du solltest unbedingt mal einen Ratgeber ausprobieren 🙂
Es gibt so so viele gute!
I’ve been wanting to read Outliers!
Curated by Jennifer
Oh yes you should Jen, it is such an amazing book!
Oh there is so many great books I need to read.
I watched the movie : “ He’s just not that into you‘ and it was a really cool movie. Now I want to also read the book. 🙂
Haha the movie is so funny! 🙂
Wow, so I should check them out soon 🙂
Go for it Kinga! 🙂
Thanks for sharing these! I haven’t read self-motivation/improvement books in a while but maybe it’s a great time to start reading one! Currently, I am reading a biography of a female animator who was a pioneer in the industry.
Wish you a great week!
Hi Lena oh yes I can really recommend them. Self-motivation books can really boost your productivity and they always give me such a nice feeling 🙂
Wow, I can understand how these books changed your life and I’m sure the lives of all the others who’ve read them! They sound so encouraging and inspiring. I’ve been into listening and watching YouTube videos that are motivating, so I’ll have to keep these in mind, especially the first two you shared.
THE STYLE CONTOUR
Hi Jalisa, do you watch Amy Landino? She is the queen of motivation on youtube! 🙂
I’m really interested in Outliers: The Story of Success. It sounds like a book i will enjoy.
Thanks for introducing me to it!
Go for it! I`m sure you will enjoy it 🙂
Ich lese auch total viel und bin immer wieder froh über Buchtips! Eine tolle Auswahl hast du, ich denke He’s just not into you wäre bestimmt was für mich. Liebste Grüsse
Little Glittery Box
Hallo meine liebe Simone, der Film dazu ist auch sehr lustig 🙂
Thanks for sharing all of these books! I have heard so much about You Are A Badass.
Oh it is a MUST!! Please read it 🙂
It was such a life changer for me
Oh these all sound quite good. I heard good things about You Are a Badass. I have mixed feelings about self-help books. If they can help people that is great but I find they are often over simplified and really only speak to middle and upper middle class people from happy homes in the first world who have known little hardship. That is my only caveat with them. It gets a lot tricker when dealing with real hard core problems. But if they help some people and have a positive message then it is all good.
Hi Allie, the books from Stefanie Stahl are especially for people who come from more difficult homes. I read two of them so far, but will definitely read more, as I found them really helpful to understand myself better, overcome some toxic habits / thinking patterns and to „heal“ from past experiences.
I totally agree with your analogy that Success = Talent + Timing + Practice. That has certainly been my experience.
Hi Heidi yes that`s true 🙂
I watched the movie „He’s Just Not That Into You“ but didn’t know it was based on a book! I’ll have to check out the book since they’re always better than the movie versions!
I would say the movie is funnier, the book is more based on all the different things men (or women) say when they don´t really want to commit, but not loose the other one.
Wow! These sound like such great books! Thanks for sharing!
Thanks Laura! 🙂
You Are A Badass is one of my all time favorites!
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Oh yes its such a mindchanging book!
Guten Morgen Tiziana, danke für das Zeigen Deiner Bücher. Ich mag diese Tipps total gern. Ich wünsche Dir einen schönen Tag. Liebe Grüße Jana
Vielen Dank liebe Jana! 🙂
I will have to check those out, they sound amazing. I don’t think I have ever read a self-help book before, but their is no time like the present. Hopefully, So Stärken Sie ihr Selbstwertgefühl gets translated soon.
Hi Tiffany oh I can really recommend you to try out some self-help books. I was skeptical before as well but there are so many good ones out 🙂
Great post, and thanks you for the kind words you left on my last blog post your too sweeet 🙂
shy – https://www.shyyshianne.com/
Thanks so much! I`m glad you liked it 🙂
I have the Bad Ass book and have had it for a long while now, but haven’t read it yet eeek. I do believe the German book has my name written all over it, a definite read for me. Great recommendations Tiziana, enjoy the rest of your week: ) xo
Hi Natoya oh you should really give the badass book a try 🙂
The chapters are so short, just start with it and I`m sure you will like it a lot
It’s great that you liked these books so much. I don’t read these kinds of guides, I prefer historical novels 😉
Oh historical novels can also be sooo good! Haven´t read one in a while. Can you recommend me any good? 🙂
interessante Tipps! 🙂
Bei mir hatte das Buch „The Power“von Rhonda Byrne einen großen Einfluss.
Einen schönen Wochenteiler und herzliche Grüße, Tati
Oh vielen Dank das Buch schaue ich mir mal genauer an 🙂
Beautiful post ♡
Thank you gorgeous!
Really want to read the You are a Badass book, have heard so much about it !
Go for it!! 🙂
Outliers!!! I love this book – it changed my life too! I read it earlier this year! i want to read the Badass Book! I’ve heard so many good thing about it! Thanks so much for sharing:)
Hi Susie oh so great to hear outliers was also a life changer for you 🙂
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and recommendations for your most favourite books. Actually, a person who reads the most is the most travelled in his mind. I would definitely want to read the You are a Badass one. Books open a new world altogether. At the moment I’m finishing the Kite Runner, once I’m done with it, I have to look out for this book.
Hi Hasin that sounds amazing!! 🙂
I’ve read the first one and it is SO good! I found it to be a game-changer as well! I will definitely add the others to my reading list. Thanks so much for the awesome recommendations, Tiziana! 🙂 Oh, and I love this beautiful canopy/bed you’re on with the sparkly lights – it’s gorgeous!
Make Life Marvelous
Oh thank you Ash!!! So sweet of you 🙂
And I`m glad we have the same reading taste and you liked my recommendations
Liebe Tiziana, bei Buchtipps bin ich sofort dabei und da ich deine Vorstellungen auf Instagram bereits verfolgt habe, freue ich mich hier auf die Zusammenfassung. Du bietest hier eine ganz wunderbare Sammlung an interessanten Büchern. Es gibt doch immer wieder Bücher, aus denen wir etwas für unser Leben mitnehmen können, die uns durch den Verlauf der Handlung Anregungen für unser eigenes Vorgehen bieten und daneben die eigentlichen Ratgeber. Ich denke, hier liegt es an uns, was wir daraus machen, denn oftmals ist es doch so, dass wir beim Lesen nicken und dem Geschriebenen zustimmen, aber nach der Lektüre gerät es immer mehr ins Hintertreffen, bis wir uns gar nicht mehr damit befassen. Daher ist es meines Erachtens wichtig, die Anregungen auch gleich nach dem Lesen in Angriff zu nehmen oder wie du es machst, ein Buch halt immer mal wieder hervorzuholen und nochmals zu lesen. Vielen Dank für diese tollen Anregungen.
Hab ein wunderbares Wochenende und alles Liebe
Liebe Gesa, das hast du wieder mal sehr treffend beschrieben!! 🙂
It is always nice to read something that changed your perspective into things. Oooh I like the vibe of You Are A Badass. Thanks for sharing all of these recommendations!
Nancy ✨ exquisitely.me
I feel like I would love You Are A Badass! It sounds like my kinda book. I’ve read Outliers and He’s Just Not That Into You and they were both great reads!
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Hi Eileen oh I`m sure than you will love the badass book! 🙂
Ich bin aktuell auch total im Lesefieber – tolle Vorstellung, meine Liebe! 🙂
Liebste Grüße und einen schönen Sonntag dir
Vielen Dank liebe Juli 🙂
This is a great list! I just ordered You are a Badass and I want to read Outliers!
Jill – Doused in Pink
Haha great!! Happy you liked my recommendations so much 🙂
Great selection of books, Tiziana! I love Outliers, that book had a major positive impact on me 🙂
Oh yes it´s really a great book!
These are some great books, thanks for sharing this list. The Outliers is especially interesting – with enough practice, anyone can become good at nearly anything!
So true! 🙂
Love that these aren’t just your favorite books but books that helped you in life. They all sound very interesting and inspiring, will check them out when I have the time. Thanks so much for sharing!
Oh thank you so much! Can`t wait to read your newest post 🙂
I’m putting these on my must-read list! Thanks for sharing, babe!
Le Stylo Rouge
Thank you Ashley!! 🙂
What a great post! Going to check out some of these…
Lots of love,
That is amazing Natalia! 🙂
Have a good day ❤
thanks so much Kinga!
I will need to check out these books, thanks for sharing!
Have fun with them Josiah 🙂
Hello Tiziana, hope you’re making the best of the last bits of summer!
Thanks for sharing your books recommendations! I am always opened to new reading experiences, specially during these weird times, cause honestly reading is one of the things that help me to stay focused and in peace most of the days!
And definitely we must invest in our learning and discover new tools that can help us growing!
Thank you Pablo and I couldn`t describe it any better haha!! 🙂
Sounds really fun! And your reading area looks so cute, I don’t think I want to leave as soon as I sit there.
Thanks Mercy I actually visited my family and took over the room of one of my nieces haha but yes the bed area looks so cozy!!
These are all such great books, Tiziana! I would definitely add them to my read list. Thanks for the recommendations! xx
(Slightly off the topic, but that sheer baby blouse you’re wearing is amazing!)
Oh Naya thanks so much!!
I love the blouse, it was my summer favourite and I`m so sad that it gets to cold in autumn now for it but I`m looking forward to wear it alllll spring on haha 🙂
Hallo meine Liebe,
das sind super tolle Bücher. Ich schaue mir das ein oder andere gerne näher an;)
Ganz liebe Grüße und hab einen schönen Abend;)
Hallo liebe Isa, das freut mich echt! 🙂
Hab einen wunderbaren Tag
Thank you for sharing! Very detailed and interesting review
Thanks a lot Anya, I hope you liked one of the books!
Thanks for sharing these books. They sound really nice.
Hi Gemma I’m glad you liked my recommendations 🙂
I do love the sound of You are a badass and he is not that into you. sound like two books that could definitely make you think!
Oh yes they are truly brilliant and can change the way how you look on your own life 🙂
Bis auf das letzte Buch kannte ich noch keines der vorgestellten (beim letzten dafür dann aber auch den Film; wobei ich den nie so gern mochte ^^). Da muss ich mal noch genauer schauen; thematisch klingen die nämlich alle recht interessant für mich.
Hallo Christine schön, dass für dich ein wenig neue Leseinspiration dabei war 🙂
Hab einen schönen Tag!
I still need to read the book AND watch the movie to He’s just not that into you 🙂 I always thought that line was from Sex In the City – or some other show – Friends? Seinfeld?
Oh I never heard it before but maybe someone used the phrase in one of the shows you mentioned 🙂
Sounds really fun! And your reading area looks so cute, I don’t think I want to leave as soon as I sit there.